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The Sky Is Falling!
Helping Preteens Handle Tragedy
By Sue Marquette Poremba
After a tragedy, Fassler says it's natural for kids to regress. However, the regression should be temporary. Parents need to watch out for a drop back in development, withdrawal or a reluctance to try new things. "Preteens who have experienced other trauma in their life tend to be even more vulnerable," says Fassler.
In the 18 months before 9/11, my son had to deal with the long-expected death of his great-grandfather and the very sudden death of his grandfather. Both personal losses helped him to feel the aftermath of 9/11 much harder than many of his peers. He had empathy for losing a loved one, which was something that many of his friends had never experienced.
Preteens who have been subjected to multiple tragedies can be more susceptible for depression or anxiety. "Don't be afraid to get help for your preteen if they don't seem to be recovering from a tragic event," Fassler says.
Give them time to grieve, but after a few months, they should show signs of returning back to normal. If they are still withdrawn or seem to be regressing, it is time to call for professional help.
How can parents best help their preteen through a tragedy? Fassler gives the following tips: